Is my marriage making me sick?

I was poking around the internet and this is what I saw:

Is your marriage making you sick?

Sick? What do you mean sick? Do you mean I may have caught something contagious from hubby? Am I allergic to commitment?

Well, of course there is another ‘study’ to get me started…
According to the article, a study from Ohio State University shows just how physically harmful it can be to argue the wrong way. Really…? In the study, 37 married couples were brought into a hospital research lab, and a tiny vacuum device gave them eight 8-mm blisters on their forearms. Each couple was then videotaped while having conversations, and researchers graded them on their communication skills, noting who had distressing or hostile styles of communicating.
After 12 days of blistering people, the researchers noticed that the blisters healed faster on the couples who had more positive communication styles, and the blisters healed the slowest on the couples with more negative styles.

The article gave some tips for limiting marital stress to make you happier and physically healthier.

1. Argue well
Learn how to ‘word’ things basically to not seem to be on the attack.

2. Your spouse is annoying — accept it!
When we fall in love, sometimes it’s for those quirks that later come back to bug us.

3. Don’t yell at a yeller
How true- it’s like feeding a fire!

4. Limit the Greek chorus
As in…don’t go talking about your relationship to your girlfriends. I guess we do that.

While it’s fine to seek support from your social circle, it’s also important to go to a counselor, who will do more than commiserate, and actually help you find a solution to your problems, which might include identifying the role you’ve played in your marital difficulties.

The website for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy can help you find a therapist near you.

5. Recall the happy times
I’m trying.

Really…she still has a career?

I can’t say I feel sorry for actress Lindsay Lohan  who has been  ordered to serve 90 days in jail for missing alcohol counseling sessions in violation of her probation. She probably should not have skipped the court-ordered alcohol-education classes  following her DUI arrest.

Now, says the crying actress  , “I thought I was being compliant….I’m not taking this as a joke. It’s my life, and it’s my career, and it’s something I have worked for my entire life.” Thank you judge for answering  “There are no excuses.”

Let’s Recap.

  • She’s been to rehab 3 times in her 24 years.
  • She has had 2 (2007) DUI busts.
  • She spent 84 minutes in jail in 2007 after she pleaded guilty to two misdemeanor counts of being under the influence of cocaine and no contest to two counts of driving with a blood-alcohol level above 0.08 percent and one count of reckless driving
  • She will be housed, an all-female jail that was a temporary home to inmates Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie. She was ordered to surrender to the court on the morning of July 20.Following her jail time,Los Angeles County’s Century Regional Detention Facility (where all of her celeb buds seem to end up) Lohan must complete 90 days in a drug- and alcohol-rehab facility.

Yet, she still had movie’s coming out! Who would bank on her?
Machete,”  is a Robert Rodriguez action film due in theaters in September.  I read that 20th Century Fox,  had no comment about this latest news.
Going to jail and rehab sentence will also delay production on “Inferno: A Linda Lovelace Story.”

Going to jail means not being able to promote  her new fashion line, 6126. The first items from the 280-piece collection are shipping out to department stores nationwide this month.

What is it that she doesn’t get? What if she had killed someone with this behavior?

Gotta love the 4th of July

There is nothing better than celebrating the 4th of July holiday with family and friends. The parades, fireworks, picnics, and bug bites are just part of the fun.

I didn’t know that every year there are an estimated 10,000 people treated for injuries related to fireworks, and many of these injuries involve children under the age of 15. I live in a state where fireworks are illegal.

I must say, I got a kick out of reading this on CNN.com.
Favorite Picnic Main Dish:

Burgers 43%
Hot dogs 10%
Ribs 23%
Chicken 7%
Steak 12%
Veggies 3%
Other 2%

Favorite Picnic Beverage

Beer 51%
Lemonade 8%
Punch (spiked or non) 2%
Iced tea 20%
Cola 7%
Water 6%
Wine 4%
Other 2%

Favorite Hot Picnic Side Dish

Corn on the cob 42.3%
Baked beans 28.3%
Grilled veggies 13.2%
Macaroni & cheese 15%
Other 1.2%

Favorite Cold Picnic Side Dish

Cole slaw 8%
Deviled eggs 27%
Potato salad 38%
Three bean salad 2%
Fruit salad 13%
Pasta salad 11%
Other 1%

Favorite Burger Toppings

Cheese 15.8%
Pickles 10%
Relish 2.1%
Ketchup 12.1%
Mustard 10.4%
Mayo 8.3%
Onions 12.3%
Lettuce 13%
Tomato 11.5%
Potato chips 1.5%
Steak sauce 1.4%
Other – 1.6%

Favorite Level of Burger Doneness

Practically mooing 1.8%
Fair rare 3.7%
Medium rare 22.3%
Medium 29.5%
Medium well 25.5%
Well done 16%
Hockey puck 1.4%

Favorite Picnic Dessert

Watermelon 36.4%
Ice cream / sherbet / gelato 12.9%
Popsicle 1.2%
Pie 23.5%
Cookies 9.2%
Cake 8.1%
Pudding 0.7%
Fruit kebab 3.2%
Anything involving a Jell-O mold 1.3%
Other 3.6%

Our 4th here was very typical. I was happy to fit some swimming in before the rains came. I didn’t eat or drink too much which also made me happy.
Gotta love the 4th.

My new showerhead…saves money and water

Well this is cool… I needed a new and just found this…

showerhead photo

The average household could save more than 2,300 gallons per year by installing WaterSense labeled showerheads. Since these water savings will reduce demands on water heaters, households will also save energy. In fact, a household could save 300 kilowatt hours of electricity annually, enough to power its television use for about a year. If every household in the United States installed WaterSense labeled showerheads, we could save more than $1.5 billion in water utility bills and more than 250 billion gallons of water annually, which could supply more than 2.5 million U.S. homes with their water needs for a year. In addition, we could avoid about $2.5 billion in energy costs for heating water.

The WaterSense Label

All products bearing the WaterSense label must be tested and certified by an approved third party laboratory to ensure they meet EPA water efficiency and performance criteria.

Did you know that standard showerheads use 2.5 gallons of water per minute (gpm)? Showerheads that earn the WaterSense label must demonstrate that they use no more than 2.0 gpm. The WaterSense label also ensures that these products provide a satisfactory shower that is equal to or better than conventional showerheads on the market.

Performance Is Key

As with all WaterSense specifications, EPA included performance criteria to ensure that consumers will not have to sacrifice a good shower in order to achieve water savings. EPA worked with a variety of stakeholders—including consumers who tested various showerheads—to develop criteria for water coverage and spray intensity. Independent laboratories test showerheads for these attributes before certifying them to earn the WaterSense label.

find out more from the epa